My Kazoku (Family)
GrandmaYoshi (lower left) |
For this assignment I interviewed
my father, William Edward Fulton. My Father was born in Japan in the year of
1960. His mother is Japanese and is famous dancer in her homeland. His father is Norwegian and
was in the U.S. Air Force. When my Dad was eleven his family moved from Japan to
the United States. A year later when my father was twelve his father passed
away. My Father is the oldest male and carried much of the burden of supporting
the family. He has sister that is five years older than him, a younger sister,
and a younger brother.
My Father in his U.S. Air Force uniform |
In this
interview I used Skype as my means of communication. I enjoyed the video option. Because
of geographical distance, my father and I generally see each other once a year.
I was uncomfortable asking my Father about his Father because I know that it is
somewhat of a sensitive subject. I feel that my interview was affected by
this mostly because he does not like to
go into detail about his father. If I had interviewed someone unrelated I might
not have approached the issue the same way and may have pressed for
information.
From my
interview and the kinship chart the most common pattern is that typically my
father’s generation has two kids, older generations tended to have
more, and younger generations tend to have one child (so far). The ethnic difference of language has created
the greatest barriers. My Grandma Yoshi
(Father’s Mother) has such a thick accent my sister and I (sometimes my father)
have trouble understanding her.
Dad with kids and grandchildren |
I know
relatives on both sides of my family fairly well. I tend to talk to my mother more frequently
than my father. However I visit them both about the same number of times a
year. I’m not sure if there are any family members that had any more influence
on decisions than any other member. I think it really depended on the what was
being decided. If it was a church or
color paint then my mother would definitely make the decision. If it was
refrigerator or air conditioning unit then it was mostly my father’s decision.
I feel family members that marry into the family are welcomed and treated
nicely, but I don’t think they are as close. This could be a matter of time
spent with them and not being “blood related”.
During the
interview my Father kept mentioning that my Aunt Evelyn, his older sister, has
created a family tree and he wished he had a copy. This project has given me leads
for looking farther back into my genealogy and maybe help understand my Father’s
actions and thougts to a better extent.
I love the family pictures. It is very helpful to attach a face to the interview. Helps to make a connection.
ReplyDeleteWas there a reason in particular that your father didn't want to talk about his own father? Personal reasons or cultural reasons? Why do you think non-blood relatives are are not treated the same as blood relatives? I was very interested to hear the "division of decisions" that you described. Do you think this is unique to your family or is it cultural or is it more general than that?
Nicely done.
In all of the posts I have read so far they all said that there was some awkwardness during the interview with their parents. It has really made me appreciate the relationship that I have with my mother. Not to say that my relationship is better, just different. At no point did I ever feel any awkwardness talking to my mom, she has always been straight forward and honest and I expected just that when asking about her family.
ReplyDeleteSince your father was born in Japan, is there anything about the U.S.,that he wish was more like him birth place? I ask this question becuase my mother is from a foriegn country and she is always saying, she rather live in her place of birth. The pictures of your family are beautiful and everyone looks very happy.Hope that one day your father will be okay with speaking about his own father. I enjoyed reading your post. Thanks for the insight.
ReplyDeleteSayom M.
I found your comment about being hesitant to ask your father about his father insightful. I would interpret that as honoring your father by not pressing him on matters he may not want to talk about. I wonder what his reaction would be to someone unrelated asking him questions about the subject.
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